Because of conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, two people fight, 6 people hurt 5, the marriage should not continue

2022-08-04 0 By

The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is more or less a problem in almost every family.If family members are good at smoothing things out, and know how to smooth things over, they can encourage the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to maintain a stable state.When conflicts occur between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, if neither of them is willing to be humble and do not know how to resolve them afterwards, there will be estrangement in the heart.If other members of the family don’t coordinate, or mix things up, it can cause bigger problems.Gao Wenkai (pseudonym) lives in Shijiazhuang and his wife Zhang Xiaoxiang (pseudonym) married less than two years, the child is only 10 months old, but because of the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law triggered two people fight, the result not only caused injuries, heavy economic losses, but also lead to their two people’s marriage is in danger.According to Gao wenkai’s mother, A woman surnamed Liu, the conflict between her and her daughter-in-law was caused by the child.Her daughter had an emergency at home, so she sent her 5-year-old granddaughter to take care of her for a few days.Considering that her granddaughter was only a few months old, she did not buy instant noodles for her granddaughter. As a result, her daughter-in-law was very upset and complained that she often bought something for her granddaughter but never bought anything for her granddaughter. She thought that she preferred her granddaughter to her own granddaughter.Complaints daughter-in-law liu didn’t feel what’s wrong, she felt in her daughter-in-law just ChuYueZi, has made it clear, granddaughter to eat and drink pull scatter sleep in the future, she will not tube, so, in her opinion, even if what all don’t buy a granddaughter, is also a very normal thing, let alone return to granddaughter before she bought two small steamed buns.Zhang Xiaoxiang, the daughter-in-law, does not agree with her mother-in-law. She thinks that as the child’s grandparents, they do not have to take charge of the child, but usually they should buy something for their granddaughter to show their love and care.But they never bought anything except steamed buns, which cost 8 yuan a bag, twice. It was a far cry from what their granddaughter was treated like.They were on time for the village fair, having fallen out of love with the shopping for their child.Zhang Xiaoxiang felt that the child needed to buy a few small underwear, but before she could clean up, her mother-in-law rode an electric car to the market, she held the child did not go.Her mother-in-law in the case of knowing that her granddaughter needs clothes, but not incidentally to buy back, let Zhang Xiaoxiang’s heart more unhappy, with the mother-in-law behind chanting a few words, so the two of them had a quarrel, two people in the heart also began to have estrangement.Not long after one morning, Ms. Liu sat outside the door to rest.When he came down from upstairs, he asked her why she didn’t come in and sit down.Then the daughter-in-law went downstairs and bolted the door inside.She was so anxious that she scolded her son outside the door, and when he opened the door, she beat him in anger.Zhang Xiaoxiang thinks her mother-in-law is deliberately playing, because she did not plug the door bolt, and then no one to open the door to her mother-in-law, is completely her mother-in-law twisted the door to come in.At that time because she was rushing to go to work, she passed the child to the mother-in-law who had just entered the door, but the mother-in-law not only did not pick up, but also loudly abused her son Gao Wenkai is what a loser, soft temper, and let Gao Wenkai fan her.Gao Wenkai a look at that situation, the in the mind is also anxious, accused his wife Zhang Xiaoxiang should not let him sandwiched in the middle to follow the anger.Although he did not start to hit Zhang Xiaoxiang, but also made Zhang Xiaoxiang angry, he shouted a few words.Did not think that in the moment of speaking, mother-in-law slap fan to zhang Xiaoxiang’s face, Zhang Xiaoxiang was hit meng, also under the impulse to hand.The first big fight between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is over a small matter of closing the door and opening the door.Her mother-in-law later said she was just angry and hit her son.The daughter-in-law said her mother-in-law cursed her son and beat her.But the key figure Gao Wenkai is pointing to his wife to fight his mother first.Everyone’s version of the fight is not the same, but after the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law were pulled apart by Gao Wenkai, the house restored calm.I thought that after a period of time, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law would slowly ease over, but what happened next was more serious.Since the fight between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, Ms. Liu has been so angry that she won’t cook for her daughter-in-law or help with the children. Anyway, she doesn’t care about her daughter-in-law or granddaughter.Gao Wenkai feels that his wife is not compatible with his mother, so he plans to break up with his wife. On the third day after the conflict, he goes to the court to Sue for divorce, and then goes out to work and wait for the result.Zhang Xiaoxiang felt that such a small matter, will not really divorce, so she did not take it to heart, continue to take care of the children at home.In order to resolve the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, she also took the initiative to give the mother-in-law passed many times the child, but the mother-in-law every time not only do not pick up the child, but also blunt her to say a lot of ugly words.Zhang Xiaoxiang took her baby by herself for 10 days, but she couldn’t hold on any longer.Because she had no food every day, she was very hungry.In the beginning, she bought two yuan a bag of gluten to appease hunger, really hungry, bubble a bag of instant noodles to eat, thirsty to drink some cold water.Once, she went to eat a bowl of porridge cooked by her mother-in-law, only to see her mother-in-law pour the rest out to the dog the next day.During a trip to her parents’ home, she returned to find eggs and tomatoes in the fridge had been taken downstairs by her mother-in-law.Originally she also intended to adhere to the patient waiting for her husband to come back, but because of hunger and cold, let her really do not want to go on, then at 9 o ‘clock one night, sent a message to her mother-in-law, it was cruel to drop asleep children, riding an electric car back to her mother’s home.After Gao Wenkai learned of the situation at home, angrily rushed to his in-laws’ home.As soon as he entered the house, he put his hands on his waist and scolded his mother-in-law about his wife. He also said many harsh and threatening words, which made her so angry that she could not help beating him.In the middle of their struggle, he also tore his mother-in-law’s clothes.Zhang Xiaoxiang’s younger brother learned that his mother was wronged, with a cousin to find brother-in-law Gao Wenkai for justice, also questioned Why Gao Wenkai wanted to divorce with his sister, Gao Wenkai did not show weakness to ask his brother-in-law, why to adulterate with the things between their husband and wife.A fight broke out between several people, with everyone pushing and shoving, and a police station was called.The conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was just because of some life trifles, as long as calm down and good communication, can be resolved completely, but the result is in the quarrel, not only did not ease the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but also involved in the two families, let the matter to the point of unimaginable consequences.Contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law upgrade, two people fight because of all sorts of conflicts have not been resolved, Zhang Xiaoxiang has been living in her mother’s home.After staying for three months, she returned to her husband’s house with her parents to take the cooperative medical book, and planned to pick up some clothes, and then follow her parents back to her mother’s home.When Liu heard the knock, she saw through the door that it was her daughter-in-law. She quickly opened the door and handed her son, who had not seen his mother for three months, to her daughter-in-law.The daughter-in-law, however, did not reach out to pick him up. “Three months with grandma, you can’t learn anything,” she muttered.After hearing this, Ms. Liu immediately replied, “The child can’t learn well with me, give it to you.”The child was forced into the past, but the daughter-in-law is not to pick up, directly went upstairs to take medical books and pick up clothes.Seeing that her daughter-in-law had not gone home to see her child for a long time, Ms. Liu became angry and shouted to her daughter-in-law: “This is my home. Get out of here.The mother-in-law’s words ignited zhang Xiaoxiang’s heart of anger, after the two pushed and shoved in the quarrel, Zhang Xiaoxiang suddenly grabbed her mother-in-law with both hands and bit her mother-in-law’s face.Neighbors heard the noise and rushed to pull them away, and liu was carried out with blood streaming from her face.Just then, Gao Wenkai came in from outside and asked his wife where his mother was when he saw the house in a mess.But the wife only in the bed to clean up the clothes, no answer, so that he directly told his wife to roll out.After the couple argued, Mr. Kao slapped his wife to the bed.Noticing something was wrong, the parents-in-law rushed to their room and saw their son-in-law beating their daughter.They rushed up and pulled him away, ready to take their daughter outside to cool off.Lao Gao, who had just come in, saw what was happening in the house. He thought that his daughter-in-law and his in-laws had beaten his son together, so he began to fight with his in-laws without any questions.In this way, conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law escalate, leading to a fight between the two families.It was only when the local police station arrived that the confrontation was resolved, but the consequences were not to be seen.Mr. Kao’s wrist was sinewed by a ceramic tile, he had a cut on his head that required four stitches and two stitches in his ear.Zhang xiaoxiang left a cut on her palm and her face was covered with scars.Liu’s face was scratched so badly that she was admitted to the hospital with eight stitches on the bite.Gao’s father-in-law said the gash in his head was 10 centimeters long.In the melee, her mother-in-law was pushed to the ground and injured her knee and face.This sudden conflict, make in two 6 individuals, besides old tall outside, other 5 individuals were hurt of different degree, and gao Jia fluctuation is more in the house of two buildings in a mess.All the appliances, furniture and Windows were smashed, even the picture frames on the walls and the bed where they slept were smashed to pieces.In each room there were pieces of furniture, glass, clothes, and so on. There was no place to stay, and blood was everywhere on the white walls.To see that horrible scene, those who know will say that this is their two families impulsive action, do not know people will think that this home was ransacked by legendary bandits.After the two families calm down, see this ugly situation, also expressed regret, but things have come to this point, no matter how much regret is useless.What remains to be determined is whether the young couple’s marriage will continue.Gao wenkai said he knows that divorce hurts both sides, but the problem is that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has become such that he doesn’t feel the need to continue the marriage.Zhang xiaoxiang thinks marriage is the most important thing and she is willing to wait for the court’s decision since her husband has so easily and carelessly filed for divorce.Lao Gao thinks that the relationship between the two families has been troubled to this point, if they still let the young couple live together, then they will not enjoy the old couple in the future, the son is also raised in vain, so he expressed his support for his son to end this marriage.The Zhang parents also showed their respect for their daughter.Considering that each of them might be angry and it would be difficult to communicate effectively, and that the court also had a six-month mediation period before the verdict, the mediator suggested That Gao wenkai take his wife and children and move out to live alone, which would not only avoid conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but also give him a chance to practice.Mr. Kao listened to the mediator’s advice and agreed to give each other another chance.Zhang also said she is willing to try to make a fresh start as long as her husband is sincere.The two agreed to a half year period of time, if feel can continue, if it is not, such as the court’s judgment.Seeing that the couple have good intentions to reconcile, the mood of the parents of both sides gradually eased down, and expressed support for their choice.Now that everyone has talked, the matter is at an end.In the end, Zhang xiaoxiang was the first to admit that she should not have attacked her mother-in-law and expressed her apology.After gao wenkai saw his wife apologize to his mother, he immediately acknowledged his mistake and apologized to his in-laws.If everyone can learn from this major conflict and adjust their behavior, they will be better off.The epilogue is a harbor full of warmth, not a battlefield filled with smoke.Although there will inevitably be quarrels and conflicts in every family, if you want to maintain the stability and warmth of the family, you should understand that love is tolerance and tolerance. If you love a person, you should treat every family member around him/her with a tolerant heart.From the point of view of this incident, in fact, because the mother-in-law preferred the granddaughter, resulting in the daughter-in-law everywhere pick her reason, resulting in the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.If the mother-in-law had been more loving to her granddaughter, or the daughter-in-law had been more tolerant of her mother-in-law, the situation might not have been so terrible.Although there is no legal requirement for the elderly to take care of their grandchildren, but in form, it is ok for grandparents to go to the market at ordinary times or buy snacks for their grandchildren, or occasionally buy a piece of clothing they need.I believe that the daughter-in-law does not really need those things, just hope to feel the care of her parents-in-law, but the daughter-in-law should not be too haggling, as long as they turn a blind eye to the past, try not to take things to heart, so as not to affect the relationship between the family.The main reason for the escalating conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the man between them.When his wife and mother conflict, he should first calm down, both sides of a coax, in the middle play a coordinating role.Gao Wenkai is not only dealing with the contradiction between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in his home, but also impulsively ran to make problems in front of the parents in law, and then also fight with his brother-in-law, the result inspired the contradiction between the two families, only to lead to disastrous consequences.The most regrettable thing was that none of the six men was overjoyed. Everyone was ready to swear and fight.If one of them had been able to stand up to the pressure, had known how to bring people together and solve the problem through good communication, it wouldn’t have come to this.All in all, whether it’s name-calling or fighting or breaking things, it’s wrong.Newly married couples may do whatever they want because they are young and energetic, but as parents of both parties, they need to know how to handle everything.The first thing to keep calm, do not randomly conflict with young people.If there is conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law should first show magnanimity and tolerance, thus affecting the daughter-in-law to learn tolerance and tolerance.Other members of the family should also know how to bridge the gap between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and resolve conflicts skillfully with wisdom, so that the family and marriage can move forward steadily.Thanks for reading!What do you think of the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law that leads to a fight between two families?END With a peaceful mind, with warm words, to convey the feelings of marriage.Click above to follow, we move forward together.